Be the Mama Bear for Your Own Health — The New Rules of Women's Midlife Care
It wasn't until 1993 that the NIH required women to be included in federally funded clinical trials.
It wasn't until 2012 that the NIH launched a branch specifically to study conditions like uterine fibroids and endometriosis.
When I heard those dates in my conversation with Meghan Rabbitt, award-winning journalist and author of The New Rules of Women's Health, I felt the particular frustration of someone who has spent years watching women get dismissed, undertreated, and told their symptoms are fine when they are clearly not.
Those dates explain so much.
They explain why so many doctors, even brilliant and well-meaning ones, don't have answers to questions about why women disproportionately suffer from autoimmune diseases. The data doesn't exist yet. It's not that medicine failed us deliberately. It's that for most of medical history, the female body was simply not the subject of study.
And we are living in the fallout from that.
The Statistics Every Woman In Midlife Needs to Know
Heart disease is the number one killer of women.
Most women don't know this.
We have been conditioned to think of heart attacks as something that happens to men. And it's true that before menopause, heart disease is more common in men. But after the midlife transition, that is our number one health risk. Not breast cancer. Not ovarian cancer. Heart disease.
And our symptoms don't look the same as men's. The crushing chest pain and left arm pain that dominate every heart attack depiction we've seen? Those are male presentations. Women's symptoms can be subtler: extreme fatigue, nausea, jaw pain, an intuitive knowing that something is very wrong. Which means women get turned away from emergency departments when they're actually having a heart attack.
Knowing this is not meant to frighten you. It's meant to equip you.
Two thirds of all Alzheimer's cases are women.
The menopause transition is now understood to be a pivotal moment for the female brain. Dr. Lisa Mosconi's groundbreaking research has shown that the menopausal brain actually sprouts more estrogen receptors, as if the brain is reaching for every last bit of estrogen it can find. The female brain loves estrogen. And as estrogen declines, the brain needs more support, not less.
Approximately 80% of autoimmune disease diagnoses are in women.
And yet, as Meghan told me, when you ask a doctor why women disproportionately suffer from autoimmune conditions, many will tell you honestly: we don't know. Because the research doesn't yet exist to answer the question definitively.
These statistics are not meant to overwhelm you. They are meant to make it undeniably clear that your health in midlife is not a background concern. It is the main event.
The Old Rule to Ditch
There is an old rule most of us were taught by the women who came before us. By our mothers, our grandmothers, the culture that shaped us.
Power through.
Your mom dealt with hot flashes. Your grandma dealt with heavy periods. You can deal with it too.
This rule is actively harming us.
Meghan told me that untreated, recurrent hot flashes are a full-body inflammatory response, and that chronic, untreated hot flashes can impact heart disease risk later on. The symptom we've been told to power through is actually doing something measurable in the body.
Pain that goes untreated gets worse, and actually sensitizes us to pain in a way that less stimulus starts to feel like more. The orthopedic surgeon Meghan interviewed for her book said only women wear their high pain tolerance like a badge of honor.
We have to take that badge off.
Your symptoms are telling you a story. That story matters. And the system will not advocate for you if you don't first advocate for yourself.
The New Rules
Show up prepared.
Come to your appointments with a written list of symptoms, organized by priority. What is impacting you most? Start there. Don't bury the lead: your most important symptom should be the first thing you say, not the thing you mention as you're walking out the door.
Bring your family health history.
When did your mother enter menopause? What was her experience of perimenopause? Did your grandmother have heart disease? Autoimmunity? Cognitive decline? These are not idle questions. They are clinical data that can change what your doctor tests for and when.
Interview your doctors.
You are not obligated to stay with a practitioner who dismisses your symptoms, interrupts you, or tells you you're fine when you know you are not. You are the CEO of your health. Interview your providers the way you would interview a candidate for any important role in your life.
Know your numbers.
Cholesterol. Blood pressure. Hormone panels. Thyroid antibodies, not just TSH. Vitamin D. Ferritin. These numbers tell the story your symptoms are narrating. Knowing them gives you the power to advocate for intervention before the symptoms become a crisis.
The Radical Act
Meghan said something near the end of our conversation that I have not stopped thinking about.
Taking care of your health is a radical act of self-love. And frankly, it's a radical act of love for the people who love us. Because if we don't take care of ourselves, we're not going to be able to show up in the way we want to for all the people who lean on us and rely on us.
Be the mama bear for yourself.
You are the mama bear for everyone else in your life. You show up prepared for your children's doctor appointments. You research the right practitioners for the people you love. You don't let anyone dismiss the symptoms of someone you are responsible for protecting.
You deserve that same ferocity on your own behalf.
The woman who invests consistently in her health, who shows up to her appointments prepared, who doesn't power through symptoms that are telling her something, who chooses a daily practice that supports her body before the crisis arrives, is not being self-indulgent.
She is protecting her future self and everyone who depends on her.
Where the Daily Practice Fits
All of this, the statistics, the new rules, the radical act of self-love, is the big picture context for something much smaller and much more daily.
The morning ritual. The evening tea. The consistent anti-inflammatory support that keeps inflammatory load manageable so that the bigger health battles are fought from a position of strength rather than depletion.
This is not a substitute for the doctor appointments, the hormone conversations, the breast MRIs and the colonoscopies and the cholesterol panels.
It is the foundation that makes all of those things more effective.
A body that receives consistent anti-inflammatory support every day is a body that shows up to those appointments in better condition than one that doesn't.
That is what the daily practice is for.
Not to replace the medical system, as flawed as it is.
To make sure you are as resourced as possible when you have to navigate it.
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With care,
Dr. Shivani Gupta
PhD in Turmeric | Ayurvedic Practitioner | Founder, Fusionary Formulas
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